Today’s Candor

Ep. 13: Unraveling Your Inner Wiring: A Journey of Self-Discovery

Welcome to episode 13 of Today's Candor. I'm your host, Barika. Thank you as always for taking the time to tune in.
In this episode, I'm discussing diving deeper and figuring out why you are wired the way you are, why you react to certain situations the way you do, why you react to certain people the way you do, and hopefully provide some tips that helped me figure out why I'm wired the way that I am. So let's go ahead and dive right on in.
I want you all to start off by just thinking and putting on your thinking caps, thinking about if you have already started this journey, this process of figuring out why you are the way you are. If you haven't started, have you even wondered why you are wired the way you are?
Once you start to wonder and have that curiosity, take a step further. Be okay with taking that leap and saying, I want to actually figure it out. I want to do some self-evaluation. I want to figure out who I am, why I'm wired this way, especially if there are things that you are currently working on. And of course, we want to continuously grow. We want to continuously improve.
When I started really sitting down and saying, who am I? Who is Barika? Why do I react a certain way? In my early 20s, I felt like I would take a lot of stuff personal. But I didn't take the time then to really break down why I took those things personal when I knew they weren't directed at me. So I had to figure out how do I stop doing that? How do I have some discernment?
Once I did, it gave me a sense of freedom. It was definitely liberating because I no longer had to be upset when somebody had a nasty attitude. I no longer had to be upset or have my mood or my entire day changed because somebody was dealing with their own battles.
So when you start figuring out who you are and why you are wired the way you are, it helps you to navigate life, the good and the bad, the in-between. The way that you might have reacted to something when you were younger, you might not now. Or once you figure out, hey, who am I? Just like we do Ancestry.com and we want to trace back our roots, you have to think about it in that way.
Being able to dive deeper and say, who am I? It should be a positive experience. Yes, there are going to be some rough times in there, depending on where, who you come from. But it should be something that is shedding light on some things that you were unaware of and then being able to turn those things into a positive.
I'll go ahead and end there. As always, please continue to follow, like and share. I appreciate everyone's support and feel good about going on this journey. I always say jot it down, write it down, because once you can pinpoint the feelings and the why, then you can begin connecting the dots and just better understanding who you are. So continue to follow, like and share on Instagram. The podcast is, of course, on all major platforms, Apple Podcasts, Pandora, Spotify, Podbean, Amazon, you name it.
In the meantime, stay safe and stay candid.

Ep. 12: The Art of Self-Care: What Does it Look Like for You?

Welcome to episode 12 of Today's Candor with your host, Barika. In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of self-care. Barika shares her personal self-care practices, offering ideas and insights for those looking to establish or enhance their own routines.From the importance of taking a day off to rejuvenate, to the soothing effects of lighting candles and dimming lights, Barika discusses various ways to create a peaceful environment. She also emphasizes the significance of a gratitude journal and the benefits of physical activities like walking and yoga.Discover how small acts, like enjoying a hot shower or saying no to obligations, can contribute to your well-being. Barika encourages listeners to find what works for them, reminding us that self-care is a personal journey.Join the conversation and share your self-care routines in the comments. Tune in, stay safe, and stay candid.

Ep 11: The Power of Taking the First Step: Overcoming Fear and Embracing Your Goals

Welcome to episode 11 of Today's Candor, hosted by Barika. Despite battling allergies, Barika dives into the importance of taking that initial step towards your goals. Whether you're looking to start a business, go back to school, or achieve any personal milestone, the fear of beginning often holds us back.
In this episode, Barika shares her own experiences and emphasizes that time will pass regardless of whether you start or not. She advises against risking essential funds but encourages listeners to engage in preliminary steps like research and planning, which cost nothing but time.
Through relatable anecdotes, Barika discusses how overthinking can paralyze us and the importance of using available resources, such as mobile devices, to begin your journey. She reflects on her own path to launching this podcast, stressing that quality and persistence are key to success.
As always, Barika thanks her listeners for their support and encourages them to continue pursuing their dreams. Tune in for practical advice and a motivational push to take that crucial first step.
Stay safe and stay candid!

Ep. 10: Beware of Those Who Try to Finesse the Law of Karma

Welcome to episode 10 of Today's Candor with your host, Barika. In this episode, Barika delves into the crucial topic of discernment and the impact of karma on our lives. She discusses the importance of recognizing toxic individuals and the necessity of removing them from our lives to maintain peace and integrity.
Barika shares personal insights and experiences, highlighting the need to understand when to help and when to step back, allowing people to face the consequences of their actions. She emphasizes that discernment is not about being perfect but about making the right choices and protecting oneself from negative energies.
Join Barika as she explores how trusting your instincts and having a strong sense of discernment can lead to a drama-free and fulfilling life. She also hints at a possible follow-up episode to further discuss the development and importance of this vital skill.
As always, thank you for tuning in to Today's Candor. Stay safe and stay candid.

Ep. 9: Bonus Content (Musical Tastes)

In Episode 9 of Today's Candor, host Barika delves into a fun and reflective discussion sparked by a Netflix documentary, "Dirty Pop: The Boy Band Scam." Barika shares her personal journey of musical tastes, from loving the Backstreet Boys and *NSYNC to appreciating Motown classics and 90s R&B.
She explores the generational and cultural differences in music preferences within her family and discusses the broader implications of embracing diverse tastes. Barika emphasizes the importance of staying true to one's unique interests, whether in music or other aspects of life, despite external expectations.
Tune in for an engaging conversation that highlights music as a universal language that bridges generational gaps and fosters understanding. Don't miss Barika's insights on navigating and celebrating diverse musical influences.

Ep. 8: Overcoming Overthinking: Embracing Your Purpose

Welcome to episode eight of Today's Candor with your host, Barika. In this episode, we delve into understanding your purpose and recognizing why you're called to do something special. Barika starts with an inspiring quote by Nicaila from Side Hustle Pro, emphasizing that everything you want is on the other side of overthinking.
Barika shares personal experiences of overcoming self-doubt and taking action to launch her podcast. She reflects on the common human tendency to place more faith in external factors, like jobs, than in ourselves. This episode encourages listeners to bet on themselves, take risks, and pursue their true calling.
Join us as we explore how identifying and acting on your purpose can lead to personal fulfillment and peace. Tune in for motivational insights and practical advice on how to stop overthinking and start living your dream.
Stay connected with Barika on Instagram at Today's Candor and follow the podcast on all major platforms including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Pandora, and Podbean. Until next time, stay safe and stay candid.

Ep. 7: Real Relationships Entail Growth, Forgiveness & Communication

Welcome to Episode Seven of Today's Candor. I'm your host, Barika. Thank you so much, as always, for taking the time to tune in.In this episode, I'll be discussing the reality of lasting relationships—what we don't like to talk about or hear. Many younger generations believe relationships are always on the up and up, but that's far from the truth.I was inspired by a post from starseed_999 on Instagram, which highlighted that real relationships involve a lot of growth and forgiveness. Accepting your partner's imperfections and working through ups and downs is crucial.This episode isn't about accepting disrespect or being taken for granted. Instead, it's about understanding that relationships come with both good and bad times. We'll explore why we fight for everything else in our lives but often neglect to fight for our relationships.From the importance of communication and self-awareness to differentiating between flaws and deal-breakers, this episode covers it all. Join me as we delve into the complexities of love and relationships, and learn how to navigate them effectively.Thank you for tuning in. Please continue to follow, like, and share the podcast. It's available on all major platforms including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Pandora. Connect with me on Instagram at @todayscandor and let me know any topics you'd like to hear my perspective on.Until next time, stay safe and stay candid.

Ep. 6: Are Your Relationships Contributing to Your Growth?

Welcome to episode six of Today's Candor, hosted by Barika. In this episode, we delve into the importance of surrounding yourself with individuals committed to growth. Barika revisits themes from episode three, focusing on embracing your authentic self and the impact of your social circle on your personal development.

Barika encourages listeners to evaluate their close relationships, including friends, family, co-workers, and significant others. She highlights timeless sayings like "you are the company you keep" and "birds of a feather flock together," emphasizing the influence of those around us on our habits and mindset.

Listeners are prompted to reflect on their social circles and assess whether these connections contribute to or hinder their growth. Barika introduces the concept of viewing relationships like a bank account, where positive interactions are deposits and negative ones are withdrawals.

The episode also explores the difficult but necessary process of outgrowing certain relationships and the importance of seeking out connections that support your journey toward self-improvement. Barika shares her personal experiences and offers practical advice on finding and maintaining these valuable relationships.

Join Barika as she navigates the complexities of personal growth and the critical role our social circles play in our development. Stay candid and connected with Today's Candor!

Ep. 5: Healing While Progressing

Welcome to episode five of Today's Candor with your host, Barika. In this insightful episode, Barika delves into the art of decision-making during your healing journey. She emphasizes the importance of continuing to live and make choices that benefit you, even when you are not fully healed.
Barika shares her personal story of overcoming the misconception that there is a perfect time to act. She highlights how change and progress are integral parts of the healing process. By sharing experiences and taking action, you not only heal but also help others who might be going through similar situations.
Join Barika as she explores how stepping out of your comfort zone and making better decisions can aid in healing. She also discusses the creation of her podcast, the challenges she faced, and how it has contributed to her healing journey.
Don't miss this episode packed with valuable insights and practical advice on balancing healing with living your best life. Tune in and stay candid!

Ep 4: Truly Be in Love: Focus Less on Traditions

Welcome to episode four of Today's Candor, hosted by Barika. In this episode, Barika delves into the profound topic of falling in love and truly being in love with your person. She explores the importance of building a deep connection and bond in a relationship, rather than being fixated on traditional milestones like marriage. Barika shares a poignant story about an encounter with an older gentleman, which sparks a discussion on why happiness and mutual respect in a relationship should take precedence over societal expectations. She emphasizes that the true essence of love goes beyond the act of getting married and is rooted in genuine connection, support, and understanding between partners. Through personal anecdotes and heartfelt reflections, Barika encourages listeners to focus on what truly matters in a relationship. She highlights the significance of communication, shared values, and being there for each other through life's ups and downs. This episode is a reminder that love is not defined by a ring or a title but by the depth of the bond shared between two people. Join Barika as she candidly discusses her past experiences and current relationship, offering valuable insights on how to nurture and cherish the connection with your person. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on love and relationships, and to understand why being happy and in sync with your partner is what truly matters.